The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate

by Fran Hauser

Leading executive and investor Fran Hauser offers practical advice to young women in business. She dispels harmful assumptions about being “nice," proving that kindness is not a weakness. Instead, it can create powerful advantages that will lead to success in one's career and beyond. 


  • Format: Hardcover
  • ISBN-13/ EAN: 9781328832955
  • ISBN-10: 1328832953
  • Pages: 224
  • Publication Date: 04/17/2018
  • Carton Quantity: 12

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  • About the Book
    An Amazon Best Business Book of 2018 


    Selected by Audible as the Best Business Book of 2018 


    Named “Best New Book” by People Magazine and Refinery29 


    Named a Most Anticipated Title of April 2018 by Bustle and Levo 


    A Women@Forbes “Boss Moves Book Club” pick 


    A candid guide for ambitious women who want to succeed without losing themselves in the process 


    In THE MYTH OF THE NICE GIRL, Fran Hauser deconstructs the negative perception of "niceness" that many women struggle with in the business world. If women are nice, they are seen as weak and ineffective, but if they are tough, they are labeled a bitch. 


    Hauser proves that women don’t have to sacrifice their values or hide their authentic personalities to be successful. Sharing a wealth of personal anecdotes and time-tested strategies, she shows women how to reclaim “nice” and sidestep regressive stereotypes about what a strong leader looks like. Her accessible advice and hard-won wisdom detail how to balance being empathetic with being decisive, how to rise above the double standards that can box you in, how to cultivate authentic confidence that projects throughout a room, and much more. 


    THE MYTH OF THE NICE GIRL is a refreshing dose of forward-looking feminism that will resonate with smart, professional women who know what they want and are looking for real advice to take their career to the next level without losing themselves in the process.

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    An Amazon Best Business Book of 2018 

    Named “Best New Book” by People Magazine and Refinery29 

    One of goop's "Great Books for Career Inspiration"  

    One of the muse's "9 Highest-Rated Career Books of 2018, According to Goodreads" 

    Named a Most Anticipated Title of April 2018 by Bustle and Levo 

    A Women@Forbes “Boss Moves Book Club” pick 


    “Yes, ambitious women can achieve satisfying careers of power and leadership without sacrificing kindness - by using it, in fact. This guide tells you how to strategize, but nicely.”—People Magazine, "Best New Books"  


    "Is it possible to be both kind and a total badass? Yes—and Fran Hauser tells us how. She kills the tired clichés that nice equals weak and tough equals bitch with anecdotes and research to unveil a sort of mentor/friendlike manual on how to get to where you’re going without letting genuine kindness be an impediment…Each page is a fun ride, filled with advice for all facets of the working world, from collaborating to negotiating to taking risks…You’ll close this book a wiser person."—goop, "7 Great Books for Career Inspiration"  


    “Many career titles gloss over the muck successful people have to wade through to get to the top. Fortunately, Fran gets into the mess — and gets specific — explaining how she has learned to handle all kinds of uncomfortable moments with authenticity and grace…If you're looking for fresh perspective on solving old problems, or are trying to forecast ways to tackle future ones, this book is worth a read.”Refinery29 


    "For anyone trying to figure out how to climb the corporate ladder, launch a new business, or gain more confidence in their day-to-day quest to love what they do and how they do it, this book is for you…The Myth of the Nice Girl is a great book for those who want to take on more work without seeming overly ambitious or bossy in a bad way. It's great for managers who need tips on how to provide feedback in more effective ways while still being nice and not making it personal…Karma's a b*tch, and with this guide, you can sleep easy knowing you are doing the right things to get ahead without having to hate yourself in the end."-Lisa Sugar, PopSugar 


    "If candid advice is what you seek, look no further than The Myth of the Nice Girl. It’ll help you fight double standards and balance empathy with decisiveness, all while helping guide your ambition."—HelloGiggles 


    “[The Myth of the Nice Girl] blows up the negative perception of ‘niceness’ that many women struggle with in the workplace.”—New York Post 


    “In [The Myth of the Nice Girl], Fran Hauser turns the “nice girl” notion on its head.”—Forbes 


    "We need more women at every level of the workplace. And, in The Myth of the Nice Girl, Fran Hauser redefines our outdated notions of what a powerful leader should look like and shows how a culture in which we no longer allow brilliant jerks to dominate the workplace will be better not just for women, but for everyone — and for the bottom line.” --Arianna Huffington, Founder & CEO of Thrive Global and Founder of Huffington Post 


    “If you want to redefine success on your own terms, you have to reimagine what a strong leader looks like. The Myth of the Nice Girl proves that you don't have to sacrifice who you are to get ahead. It's time to discard old-fashioned stereotypes, become the boss of your own future and recognize that being nice and authentic can make you a true Girlboss.” - Sophia Amoruso, Founder & CEO, Girlboss 


    “This book is about more than the power that comes with kindness.  Fran shares her insights and actionable ideas to help navigate many of work’s most difficult moments along with strategies that will allow you to get ahead.” 

    -Mindy Grossman, President and CEO at Weight Watchers International, Inc. 


    "This book is a must-read for anyone trying to navigate business relationships while "staying human". I believe in the message so much that it's recommended reading for my class at Columbia Business School.  Fran is the perfect example of someone who hasn't lost her humanity with all of her success, and has shown that kindness can in fact be a leader's most powerful strength." - Angela Lee, Chief Innovation Officer and Associate Dean at Columbia Business School 


    "'The Myth of the Nice Girl' offers useful tips for some of the biggest challenges we face as women in the workplace - speaking up, offering feedback, negotiating - and even word-for-word scripts for when you’re at a complete loss for what to say! “The Myth of the Nice Girl” is the perfect guide to accomplishing your career goals, without sacrificing kindness. 

    -Randi Zuckerberg, Founder & CEO at Zuckerberg Media 


    “The world desperately needs the message Fran pioneers in NICE GIRL. I look forward to seeing employees and leaders alike embrace Fran's principles of authentic and compassionate leadership and, as a result, improve corporate culture across all industries.” 

    - Amy Emmerich, Chief Content Officer, Refinery29 


    “NICE GIRL will save you a lot of time trying to become something you’re not. Through her own story and those of other female leaders, Fran shows that nice women really do come out on top.” - Desiree Gruber, CEO at Full Picture, Executive Producer of Project Runway 


    "You can't get a Big Life on your own terms if you’re not being true to yourself.  Fran shows women just starting out in their career how collaboration, accountability, and yes, kindness can be their biggest assets." —Ann Shoket, millennial expert and author of The Big Life 


    "The Myth of the Nice Girl is a brilliant guide for effective and compassionate leadership. Fran demystifies the seemingly impossible balance between strong and nice with concrete tools that are accessible, smart, and immediately implementable." -Chrissy Carter, Yoga Educator and Founder of H(OM)E ® 


    “I wish I’d had THE MYTH OF THE NICE GIRL when I was starting out in my career.  Fran shows women and men alike how to strike the perfect balance between being a strong, powerful leader and being NICE.” -Alexandra Wilkis Wilson, Entrepreneur, Author and Co-founder of Gilt, GlamSquad and Fitz 


    “I’ve always admired Fran for being super nice and super successful. NICE GIRL is an inspiring guidebook for women, whether just starting out in their careers or more established and looking for a reminder to stay true to who they are.”  - Farnoosh Torabi, bestselling author and host of the podcast So Money 


    "It's amazing to see how high you can fly when you invest in yourself. NICE GIRL offers concrete ways to ta...

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